CHILDREN AND STRESS

Cooperative Extension Educator

University of Connecticut Cooperative Extension System

Children, like adults, suffer from stress. Dealing with change, new situations, separation from or loss of loved ones, and other situations can be stressful for children. Unlike adults, children may not understand what is happening. They may not be able to cope with the stress and its consequences. Children need parents and other adults to help them through these difficult times.

Stress manifests itself in different behaviors or different degrees of a child's normal behavior. For example, it is normal for children to cry once in a while, but if a child begins crying everyday, perhaps when it is time to go to school, that child is showing signs of stress.

When a child shows signs of stress, parents and adults need ~o provide additional support for the child. The following techniques can help children to cope with stress:

Try to understand the child's feelings, but don't assume yJu already know what they are. Ask questions, observe the child's play and notice any changes in the child's routine.

Acknowledge and accept the child's feelings. Let him know that it is important to talk about emotions.

Be sure that the child has time and space for active play or exercise. Physical activity can help release stress and frustration for children.

Give the child some appropriate choices so that she feels th~t she has some control over her life. Choices also he-p children to be good decision makers.

Whenever possible, prepare the child for upcoming events whish may be stressful. Discuss what will happen and why in terms that the child can understand. However, too much anticipation can create more stress.

Provide plenty of love and support. Let your child know that you are there to help him and that he doesn't have to solve all his problems by himself.